43 Chicago Black Wednesday bars for singles

Are you single in Chicago on Black Wednesday? Mingle Around has a list of over 40 Black Wednesday events in Chicago. Thousands of singles will be out and about, make sure you are out there to Mingle!

Don’t miss out on Mingle Around’s Black Friday speed dating event for singles under 40. Go HERE  for details. Mingle Around is also going on a cruise! Check it out and brag about your upcoming vacation over Thanksgiving Dinner!

Please, be smart and don’t drink and drive. Call a cab or find a DD. Don’t make Wednesday a “BlackOUT” Wednesday.

Union Sushi + Barbeque Bar
What: Union Sushi + Barbeque Bar will be rocking with music by DJ Flaco alongside signature cocktails from Adam Seger of Hum Spirits. There will also be complimentary sushi and skewers served throughout the evening.

McGee’s, Wrightwood Tap, Durkin’s, Duffy’s, Redmond’s, Maeve
What: Get basted the night before Thanksgiving with a “Turkey Trolley Trot.” Taking place from 8-11 p.m., the crawl will hit six different bars. The $20 meal package includes a food buffet, domestic drafts, a “pilgrim punch” and trolley transportation to the various bars. Tickets can be purchased here.

Bridge Bar
What: Turkey lovers can get a head start on the action a night earlier with Bridge Bar’s “Turkey Night.” Enjoy a drive-thru turkey burger, featuring house-ground turkey topped with homemade cranberry sauce, washed down by a craft beer for $8. $2 Wild Turkey “you-call-its” will also be available to replenish thirsty birds.

Porkchop
Where: 941 W. Randolph
What: Porkchop looks to wash the night away with its Blackout Wednesday specials. Drinks include the Blackout (PBR and whiskey shot) and Crazy Train Shots (three shots – vodka pineapple, cranberry and apple pucker). Local punk band The Frantic will provide the entertainment.

The Southern
What: Have a very Wild Turkey Black Wednesday at the Southern. There will be Wild Turkey bourbon samples, $5 Wild Turkey ball shots, $3 Coors Lite and a $40 drink package alongside a DJ dropping the tunes.

SmallBar
What: SmallBar will be wrapping up the fall season by tapping their last keg of Southern Tier’s Pumpkin Imperial Ale. Making a return for one night only will be the Pumpkin Whip cocktail and Black Wednesday beer specials will include a $4 SmallBar pale ale and $4 allagash.

Midtown Kitchen & Bar
What: Midtown Kitchen & Bar will offer a very Chicago 3-1-2 special all day long on Black Wednesday. House cocktails will be $3, domestic draft beers will be $2 and glasses of Champagne will be $1.

Jack’s Bar & Grill and 404 Wine Bar
Where: Jack’s Bar & Grill at 2856 N. Southport; 404 Wine Bar at 2852 N. Southport
What: Are you a hungry and stranded student with nowhere to go? Jack’s Bar & Grill and 404 Wine Bar has you covered. On Black Wednesday and Friday Nov. 25, diners can take 50 percent off their food and drink bill with a valid student i.d.

The Pony, Lotties Pub, The Frontier
Where: The Pony at 1638 W. Belmont; Lottie’s Pub at 1925 W. Cortland; The Frontier at 1072 N. Milwaukee
What: Cheer on the Chicago Blackhawks during this Black Wednesday trolley crawl. A Blackhawks viewing party with announcer Gene Honda and the Ice Girls will take place at The Pony, while Lottie’s Pub will feature karaoke. Finally, live music and a patio campfire at the Frontier should help keep even the coldest hockey fans warm. Free beer and Malibu Black cocktails will be stocked on board the trolley to keep the party going.

Barn & Company
What: A complementary menu sampling will be available and washing down the grub will be $4 craft beer drafts, $15 sangria pitchers and $5 bomb shots.

Timothy O’Toole’s
What: Prove your love of turkey at Timothy O’Toole’s “Turkey Testicle Festival.” At 9 p.m., the fun gets started with a turkey testicle eating contest followed by a pumpkin pie eating contest. Onlookers can still get a taste of the action with $6.99 fried turkey testicle buckets, half-price Guinness Blacklist drafts and $2 Miller and Coors Lite pints.

Paramount Room
What: The River West bar and restaurant will celebrate Black Wednesday with several drink specials including $2.50 PBR cans, $5 shot and a beer, $3 house shots as well as jello shots.

Tzar Ultra Lounge
What: The engines will be revving at Tzar Ultra Lounge’s “Black Out Affair.” Come dressed in black attire and catch a glimpse of a display of luxury black automobiles. There will also be a complimentary Champagne bar between 10-11 p.m.

John Barleycorn
Where: 658 W. Belden
What: Dance the night away as DJ Danniboi spins the hottest jams at John Barleycorn. Chow down on all-you-can-eat fish and chips for $8.95 and drink up on $3 Sam Adams drafts, $4 well drinks and $4 glasses of wine.

Casey Moran’s
What: The popular Wrigleyville bar will be featuring $1 domestic bottles, $3 Goose Island 312 drafts and a $3 craft beer of the week.

Vertigo Sky Lounge
What: An open bar, live DJs and the city’s only rooftop lounge where they dare to go outside in November. Guest can purchase tickets in advance for open bar packages starting at $30 dollars.

Tzar Nightclub
What: A blackout affair, with patrons encouraged to wear black clothing while surrounded by a display of luxury black vehicles. Complimentary champagne reception from 10-11 p.m.

The Joynt

What: Head to The Joynt for the monthly Ladies’s Night Chicago event from 5:30-10 p.m., featuring beauty services, drink specials, music and get an early start on holiday shopping with a selection from local vendors.

Joe’s Bar on Weed

What: Come on out to Joe’s Bar on Weed St. for Blackout Wednesday party featuring half-priced drinks.

Rockit Bar & Grill

What: Black Wednesday Moustache and Whiskey party. Come with your best mustache to show off in the mustache contest to win a $100 prize. Enjoy Jim Beam and Markers Mark for $6 and whiskey infused culinary menu. Proceeds will benefit The Movember Foundation to raise awareness for Men’s Health and Prostate Cancer.
District Bar
What? The open bar package runs from 6-9 p.m., and there will be specials ($6 Absolut cocktails, $4 Jameson shots, $3 Lemon Drops) all night long. Menu includes deep-fried herbed turkey with Grand Marnier cranberry sauce, hot corn pudding with white goat cheddar cheese, mini bourbon and brown sugar sweet potato pies and more.

Lottie’s Pub
What? Head to Bucktown for a Black Wednesday Beer Fest featuring $5 24-ounce domestic drafts and, of course, $5 turkey legs with sweet potato fries.

The Pony

What? Thanksgiving is usually about old traditions, but how about a new one? The Pony picked a fine time to launch its “Honky Tonk Wednesdays” series, which features country tunes all night long courtesy of Slamabama, plus specials including half-price burgers and wings, $3 SoCo & Lime, $3 Jim Beam Black and $3 16-ounce Coors Light cans. There’s no cover for the launch event.

Rockwood Place
What? What’s better than pumpkin pie on Thanksgiving? Pumpkin pie shots the night before. Rockwood Place features all-night drink deals such as $4 pumpkin pie shots, $3 drafts, $4 Jameson and $4 Absoult cocktails. Or go for an inclusive $25 package that includes wine, select beers and spirits. There is no cover.

 

LaSalle Power Co.
What? The main floor is open from 4 p.m.-2 a.m. featuring the full regular menu until 1 a.m., including LPC’s Thanksgiving Leftovers Sandwich, with roasted turkey, stuffing and cranberry sauce on a ciabatta roll with a side of home-style gravy. Doors open on the second floor at 8 p.m. where LPC’s resident DJ spins rock, pop and more. Doors open on the third floor at 8 p.m. where the 11th Hour Band plays hip-hop, disco and electro dance starting at 9 p.m.

 

Martini Park
What? Work out some of your familial frustrations with live band karaoke at Martini Park. From 8 p.m. to 2 a.m. cover band Rendition will host live band karaoke. Get up your courage with $6 Absolut specialty cocktails.

 

Division Ale House
What? Dance your calories away ahead of time with DJ Mister S. and guest DJs spinning new wave, 80s, electro and funk from 9 p.m. on. There’s no cover and $3 all drafts and $2.50 chili.

 

O’Donovan’s
What? Get your pre-turkey turkey on at O’Donovan’s. Bartenders will be serving up special Wild Turkey bourbon cocktails for $4 and Wild Turkey shots for $4. Also available will be a huge jardinière filled with Wild Turkey Balls (maraschino cherries marinated in Wild Turkey bourbon). Other drink specials include $1 off all domestic beer bottles, $5 Grape or Cherry bombs and half-price for most wine bottles.

 

Kit Kat Lounge and Supper Club
What? There’s turkey legs–and then there’s Tina Turner’s legs. Celebrate those gorgeous gams as Diva Traci Ross performs throughout the evening as Tina Turner.

 

10pin Bowling Lounge
What? The first 10 guests who bowl a turkey (three strikes in a row) will receive a free turkey for Thanksgiving.10pin will also offer $3 Miller Lite bottles.

 

Carnivale
What? Want to spend your Black Wednesday a little differently than normal? Head to Carnivale to enjoy live music by the skilled composer and trombonist, Angel Melendez, accompanied by his quartet. Having played at some of the great Chicago venues, including The House of Blues and The Chicago Symphony Center, Angel Melendez has become one of the most recognized Latin musicians in Chicago.

 

Chen’s
What? Free appetizers are a great way to begin a night of drinking. Chens Chinese and Sushi is offering half-price martinis and complimentary appetizers for guests who dine in the bar. Complimentary appetizers include maki trays, spring rolls, crabmeat wontons and cold noodle salad.

 

Cityscape Bar
What? Hump Day Happy Hour Buffet–need we say more? Black Wednesday specials will include: $2 Miller Lite, MGD, MGD 64 bottles and $3 glasses of Glass Mountain Chardonnay and Merlot from 3 p.m.-1 a.m. The buffet (5-7 p.m.) includes wings, artichoke dip and much more..

 

Duke’s Alehouse and Kitchen
What? Funk up your Thanksgiving at Duke’s. For just $5 you can jam out to Barefoot Fred, a versatile band with a rock/funk/bluegrass sound.

 

Durty Nellie’s
What? Go back to a time where hairspray ruled and leggings weren’t just for ladies. In celebration of Black Wednesday, Durty Nellie’s will present ’80s rock cover band Hairbangers Ball. Cover is $7.

 

Gibsons Steakhouse Rosemont
What? Be thankful for free stuff. Start the night out right with a complimentary appetizer buffet from 4-6 p.m. in the bar.

 

Meson Sabika (Naperville)
What? Celebrate the night with midnight sangria. Just $3 gets you a midnight sangria (red wine, brandy, triple Sec, gin, fruit juices, blue curacao, topped with fresh fruit) and $2 tapas from select menu which will consist of an array of hot and cold tapas all available for $2 each.

 

Lumen
What? This laid-back Lounge’s third annual Lights Out Party starts with a private cocktail reception featuring Absolut Boston Black Tea and Elderflower vodka from 9 to 10 p.m., then continues with DJ Timbuk2, recent VH1 Hip-Hop Honors winner for “Best Hip-Hop DJ in the Nation.” Drop an extra $10 for three hours of open bar from 9 p.m.-midnight.

 

Uncle Fatty’s Rum Resort
What? It’s business as usual at this tropical-themed bar – and by that we mean a lot of partying. “Tank’dgiving Eve” includes four hours of premium open bar for those who wish to partake, as well as entertainment from DJ Risky Bizness and high-energy cover band The Seth Bradley Personnel. Also of note: Uncle Fatty’s will introduce its four-gallon (!) fishbowl service, available for $10 per person.

 

English
What? It’s up to you to decide the lush status you want to enjoy. Just having a couple? Go a la carte. Doing it up big? Try the $30 call beverage inclusive package (offered from 9 p.m.- midnight). The bar’s resident DJ will be spinning pop, rock, top 40 and more from 7 p.m.-2 a.m.

 

Mac’s American Pub
What? Start your meat-fest early with an $8.75 meatloaf dinner (comes with gravy, mashed potatoes and asparagus). Wash it down with $3 pints of microbrew drafts and $3 pumpkin pie and nutty pumpkin shots. Mac’s adds a DJ to the Wednesday night lineup spinning a mix of styles from 9 p.m.-2 a.m. There is no cover.

 

Moe’s Cantina
What? Meat on a stick? Check. Drink specials? Check. DJ? Check. Moe’s has everything you need for a well-rounded Black Wednesday. The DJ spins from 10 p.m.-2 a.m. with no cover charge.

 

Landmark
What? Have you been watching the new “Melrose Place” on CW? If not, you’d better bone up quickly, as one of the show’s steam stars, Colin Egglesfield, will be the main attraction at this Black Wednesday event. The actor is promoting his SHOUT OUT! T-shirt line, and attendees will not only enjoy a meet-and-gree with him (from 7-8 p.m.) but can also customize their own shirts with Thanksgiving-themed messages. The party that also includes $7 cocktails, $175 Absolut bottles and chair massages by Juvenesse Spa.

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About last nights “CaffeineDating” event

I had the pleasure of hosting a speed dating event on Friday night with 22 of Chicago’s finest singles over 40. What makes this event unique is the fact it truly was “speed” dating… we were all hopped up on caffeine instead of liquor!

No offense to liquor, I do enjoy a glass of wine with dinner  or shot of tequilla on the weekend, but sometimes it’s nice to change the scenery. Argo Tea partnered with us and allowed us to use the private space upstairs from the Tea Cafe on 1 North Dearborn. This room had a pretty amazing view (okay, not amazing…we were only one story up…but it was a nice view with huge floor to ceiling windows!) and had the smell of teas and coffee tickling our noses.

Disaster #1… What room?

Upon my arrival I searched for the manager with whom I booked the room and scheduled catering with. He was no where in sight and my private room was full of students. I also was getting nervous because I was not seeing my catered foods and drinks…. uh ohh.

I’m thinking, “Did I book the wrong day? Did they forget my event? When is everyone going to show up? Why is the room so hot?”

I grabbed the barista from the cafe and asked her when my room would be set up and she looked at me blankly and said,”What event?”

“Ha! You’re kidding right? What room! Funny! Who set you up to this?” was my response.

She then explained that the manager who I’ve been working with all month was actually not with the company as of this morning…. WHAT!?

BUT, Argo Tea was super awesome and lickety split got my room set up and offered the daters complimentary food and great beverages from the cafe. It worked out well for us… just started out as an event planners worst nightmare!

Disaster #1 fixed.

Disaster #2… Too many men…

Speed Dating is a difficult event to keep the ratio of men to women even. No matter how hard I try something always happens. This particular event was booked even 11 men, 11 women. Then the day of THREE women called to cancel due to work or family issues. Three?! Come on, cut me a break here! I can’t have too many men, especially three men too many!

So, I post some quick ads on Facebook and twitter and get three great gals to fill the spot (I had a waiting list for the event, so filling the spots wasn’t a problem).  Great, back to even. Easy….or so I thought!

One male paid and didn’t show up, and another female showed up at the door with confirmation but I hadn’t had her name on my email list. (Website bug… fixed). So, I started out with too many men, now I have two women to many. Which I think actually worked out fine as we had 10 men and 12 women. The women had two rounds of “No date” which gave them time to freshen up in the washroom, text their best friend (hopefully telling them to come to a Mingle Around event!) or refill their beverage.

disaster #2…. fixed, but reversed!

Disaster # 3…. Is it hot in here?

I’m a nervous gal. Mingle Around is my baby and I’ve got my name all over it. If it fails, I fail. Hence, I get nervous before events because I want everyone to have a good time and positively speak to other single friends about Mingle (hopefully a 5 star Yelp! review too). So when I was sweating upstairs dealing with “disasters” I thought it was just me. It wasn’t. It turns out I was fine, the room was just hot. Like really hot. We’ll have that fixed for the next upcoming “CaffeineDating” event, I think the new manager just didn’t have the key yet for the heat control. So if you were at the event and sweating due to nerves, no one would know!

Disaster #3 not fixed, but could have worked in your advantage!

That’s it for the disasters.

The event actually ROCKED. About an 90 minutes of “mingling” and a 90% mutual match rate for our singles. The speed dating had a great crowd of attractive singles over 40 who really were personable and fun. Most of the speed daters hadn’t actually been to a speed dating event before, so it was a new concept for a lot. I sure hope they had a great time. I’ve received a few thank you emails the day after, I’ve attached a photo of one. The thank you emails are my absolute favorite thing about this job…. it’s wonderful doing something that people love!

Upcoming CaffeineDating Event- For singles in their 20’s and 30’s. Friday November 26

Other upcoming events http://minglearound.com/Chicago-Singles-Events-2011

Thank you letter

Thank you letter

Thanksgiving idea for singles

Mingle Around wishes you and your single friend a happy thanksgiving!

Mingle Around wishes you and your single friend a happy thanksgiving!

Many people can’t spend Thanksgiving with their families because of distance, work and other reasons. Just because they aren’t spending the afternoon with family doesn’t’ mean they want to spend it alone! If you’re also single you may consider spending the afternoon with friends and hosting a “single friends” dinner at your home.

Make this Thanksgiving the one you look back fondly on. Think lots of comfort foods, surrounded by friends, no Uncle Arty asking you to pull his finger and possibly land a new love interest.

How?

Serve Thanksgiving dinner at your home!

Invite every single person you know and ask them to bring a single friend. Make sure your friend isn’t secretly interested in their single friend or it could cause for some Thanksgiving Hijacks later on. Here are 3 tips for making this Thanks (for single friends) giving go off without a hitch:

1. When sending out the invites, make sure it is crystal clear that when your guests bring a guest it is someone that they are absolutely not interested in! The last thing you want to happen is a bowl of mashed potatoes flying across the room aimed at that cute blonde talking to your friends ex boyfriend because they still had feelings. If you’re the host, make sure you stick to this rule as well.

2. Keep it simple and casual. Holidays are stressful enough and not spending time with family can be stressful. Keep the event carefree, the drinks flowing, music pumping and atmosphere light. This is for yourself too, don’t try to do it all yourself. Invite people to help with preparing or serving the food. Make sure to introduce everybody so that they’re comfortable but don’t try to force any matchmaking between certain guests. (Leave that to the professionals!)

3. When it’s time to eat, take into fact others religious backgrounds. Not everyone will want to pray before the meal, be careful not to make this uncomfortable for your guests. A great idea though is to let everyone around the table take a moment to share with guests what they’re thankful for this Holiday season. Why? It’s simply a nice Thanksgiving tradition to observe and it’s always nice to give thanks for the blessings in your life. And who knows, someone’s list of what they’re thankful for (for example, finally starting booking that trip to Europe to visit extended family) may pique the interest of a guest and spark a perfect reason to continue the conversation. Natural matchmaking!

This Thanksgiving, give thanks to all of your friends and family. Single and not!

Happy Thanksgiving,

Jill Jackson (Founder of Mingle Around)

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Photos from the Mingle Around Nuts & Bolts Party (ABC taping)

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Just a few photos from the Mingle Around Nuts & Bolts party on 11/4/11. Hope to see you at one soon!

 

ABC came to film our singles party! (Nuts & Bolts Party)

The true story on how Mingle Around gets on ABC news— for hosting singles events.

I manage a restaurant, anyone who knows restaurant life knows not to call during lunch or dinner hours. Yesterday (thursday) I received a phone call from a strange 312 number that I ignore because it was the lunch rush and I was busy attending to 300 customers.  I didn’t wind up checking that voice mail until about 4:30 pm and had to listen about 4 times just to make sure that I heard right. “Hello Jill, this is ABC calling and we’d like to do a story on your Nuts & Bolts singles parties. Please call us back at 312-555-5555.”

HA! Yeah… which one of you pranked me? That’s all I could think of. I figured it was a joke until I checked my e-mail and an abc.com email was sitting in my unread box.

WTF!? is now all I could think. What would ABC want from me? Yeah, the parties I throw are fun. They do attract a diverse and amazing crowd, but it’s not like I’m throwing parties at the Hilton or inviting celebrities. I’m a normal girl average girl and Mingle Around is my baby- but it’s not making anyone a millionaire. Doesn’t ABC want really intense and exciting topics? Then I got to thinking that maybe I underestimate myself, my company and the potential (and current success) that it has.

So, I call back the producer and he asked me so kindly if he could bother me by coming out to our singles event on Friday night. Ha! Like I’d say no to that! I agree, thank him as professionally as I could, tried to act cool, like news stations call me everyday and as soon as he hung up I screamed and started a little dance in my kitchen!

I danced for a minute, enjoying the random good luck that was just bestowed on me and then I started to freak out. What should I wear? How can I lose 10 pounds in a day? Am I tan? Should I get my nails done? What will I say? Will I have a good and packed crowd? What if I stutter or sweat? What if I look like an idiot? What if….

The night was short and I needed to find an appropriate dress, shoes, makeup, accessories and all those fun girl things. I mean, I’m going on camera those precious 10 seconds of fame went straight to my head for a few minutes and I was ready to whip out all the credit cards.

Anyone who knows me, knows that I’m not “stylish”. I’m from the country, love to get dirty and don’t mind if I break a nail. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE to dress up, but I usually take my sister with to help find outfits…. because to me, a too tight red mini skirt with leopard tights and a pink sweater would look hot. (yikes, someone call “What Not to Wear”!) I knew that wouldn’t work for television… I needed to dress the part.

Thankfully, a fellow matchmaker (Stef in the City) saw my excited tweets and contacted me. Gave me some great TV advise that I took her up on and I found a cute dress, shoes and accessories all downtown and on sale!

The event started at 7pm and the news reporters were there at 7:15 with a giant camera. Eeeks! They set up a great shot in the back room, sat me down and interviewed me. Of course I screwed up my words and when I spoke about nuts and bolts I said it backwards… “Girls get a BOLT and Guys get a Nut” (duh… wrong!) so I had a lot of do overs. The producer was so nice though… he even told me I was sweating too much and advised me to wear a jacket . So gross and embarrassing… girls shouldn’t say things like that, right?! I’m just keeping it real! You can’t blame me, there was a giant, hot spot light on me, a giant camera and two strangers interviewing me with a crowd of Mingle Members watching, who wouldnt’ be sweating!? I felt confident at the end of the interview, I think that I pulled it off .

After my little interview, ABC news interviewed a few Mingle Members about their experiences dating and then they took a few shots of the party. Around 8pm they took off and I could finally relax and enjoy the event!

This event was all ages, but the majority were 28-38 range. There were some  *really* attractive girls and guys here tonight and everyone seemed so nice! A lot of networking, some new friendships budding and two couples really kicked it off, while at least six more seemed to have some major potential. It seemed that almost every guy left with a few new phone numbers in his phone and every girl seemed happy for some great potential dates!

Ahhhh… it was a great night. So many new faces tonight and I love when people let me know what a great time they had, and how different a “Nuts  & Bolts” party is from any other night out. It’s just so easy to meet people and so much fun.

I can go to bed happy tonight, knowing that I threw a great party, there are a couple of potential couples, ABC knows who Mingle Around is and that I have such an amazing group of Mingle Members and friends.

The only worry I have, is for Sunday night when they air the little interview… please don’t look like an idiot Jill!

xoxo

Jill

She is a 10- but doesn’t get hit on.

Last night, I celebrated Halloween with a few friends. We stopped by the Roof on the Wit, which was full despite the chilly weather.

Typically when I’m out at a bar I can’t help but watch the crowd dynamics. I like to see who’s flirting, who’s singles, who’s taken and who’s cheating. Naturally, I’m a people watcher and the Wit was giving me a great show. My single friends know that going out with me usually ends up with a long night of questions on their perception of others. I like to know what people find attractive and the best way to do this is to play  a non killing version of the Shag, Marry, Kill game with total stranger as our victims.  “If you could take any person home tonight, who and why?” and “If you had to marry one person here, who would it be and why?”   Not the most professional way to extract information from someone, but guaranteed to be interesting.

The most popular girl in the evening to both marry and shag in the bar tonight was “The Swan”– a tall fit blonde who was a “10” in anyones book. She was wearing what appeared to be a white swan dress with feathers and sequins everywhere. It was classy and form-fitting but not the typical “slutty version” Halloween costume. unfortunately for her she had been sitting surrounded by girlfriends and looking very unhappy all night. I noticed men looking at her, but no one approached.

A little later in the evening I had happened to strike up a conversation with Swan while waiting for the washroom. Swan was out with friends, though didn’t have a date. She also confessed (it’s amazing what a little liquor does) that she felt silly in her outfit, and wishes she had worn something more revealing because none of the men would talk to her.

Being a matchmaker and dating coach I had to let her know that the men were looking at her and attracted to her, but she was giving off bad body language. By sitting with girlfriends on a couch with her arms crossed around her body she was not giving off “come hither” signs.  I told her to look up from her drink more and smile while keeping her arms UNcrossed and just at her sides. I also told her to step away from her group of gal pals, as men are often intimidated of a group of girls. Her choice of outfit was not a hinderance, in fact the costume flattered her and left something to the imagination. The only hinderance was her attitude wearing it. Swan said she didn’t realize she was giving out “No” signals and was going to try to look approachable.

About thirty minutes later I noticed Swan and a zombie getting  to know each other. She had taken my advice and was a few seats away from her friends, giving good body language and appeared to be interested in him. He was digging on her too. She smiled at me when I as leaving, and I was happy to have helped make a love connection for a love hungry swan and blood hungry zombie.

Happy Halloween to my readers! As a treat (not trick) for you, please enjoy 25% off Friday nights (November 4th) Nuts & Bolts Party- follow this link and enter “blogread30” as the coupon code.

Top 6 BEST halloween costumes for single Chicago women

Halloween night is almost like being on vacation, no one expects you to dress or act like yourself. Cut loose, dress crazy and have fun! Here are the top 6 Chicago single female Halloween costume ideas for all you girls out there. If you’re looking for a Chicago Halloween party- Mingle Around is hosting a singles Halloween party in Chicago. Wear one of these Halloween costumes there! You can also wear it on the haunted tour of Chicago. Information on the tour can be found here.

Katy Perry – Voted one of the sexiest women alive… you can’t go wrong with looking like her for the Halloween party!  Please, make sure you have the body for an outfit like this! 

Dress like Katy Perry for halloween in Chicago! Womens costume ideas

Dress like Katy Perry for Halloween in Chicago! Womens costume ideas

Pan Am stewardess – One of my favorite television shows this fall is Pan Am. The flight attendants blue suits are sexy in a subtle way. “Can I refill your drink?”

Panam girl for a womens Chicago halloween costume

Panam girl for a women's Chicago Halloween costume

Mad Men – My go to outfit has always been a 60’s housewife. Something about gloves and pillbox hats always did me in. Dress up like Joan or Betty and maybe you’ll meed a Don Drapper…

Joan from Mad Men for a womens chicago Halloween Costume

Joan from Mad Men for a women's Chicago Halloween costume

The twitter bird – Adding your twitter name (@minglearound!) can be a fun way to get some single guys names/twitter names

Sexy twitter bird for a womens chicago Halloween Costume

Sexy twitter bird for a women's Chicago Halloween costume

Sexy something – The “go to” Halloween costume in Chicago and every other city world-wide.  Think of any cartoon character, movie heroine, game or item. Add the word “sexy” before and hoist the girls up high. Tada! You are now a sexy game of Scramble….

Sexy game of Scrabble? Halloween Costume

Sexy game of Scrabble? Halloween Costume

The Birds – Strike up a conversation with a fellow Alfred Hitchcock fan with this fun Halloween costume. Be Tippy from The Birds.

Chicago womens halloween costume idea. Tippy from The Birds

Chicago women's Halloween costume idea. Tippy from The Birds

About last night (10/14)

I host singles events in Chicago and after most events, I’ll blog a few thoughts about the night from both a matchmakers point of view and as a new small business owner.

Last night was a young professional’s singles mixer with at “Nuts & Bolts” theme as an icebreaker. I also had two singles on a first blind date, professionally matched by me. A lot was happening and that’s the way I love it! I was nervous about the blind date for my two single friends, and I was nervous that the party wouldn’t be as much of a success as it was. I had  no reason to fear- as the party was AMAZING and the blind daters are both very happy with each other.

48 sexy singles had RSVP’d and almost everyone showed up plus a few singles from the bar next door. I love when that happens- people peek into our private room and they get interested and started mingling with us!

The first two singles that walked in the door were very attractive smart girls who are brand new to Chicago. Without knowing anyone in this big city, they say it makes meeting people even more difficult and I understand. Both ladies approached me at the end of the night to thank me for hosting the party. Both ladies had met a few potential dates and had a bunch of new numbers in their smart phones.

Interesting turn of events, I had a (competing) professional matchmaker show up at my event and introduce herself to me. She and I had a chance to chat for a bit and she seemed like a sweet girl. I’m always flattered when other Chicago matchmakers ask me for advice or to discuss partnering up. This is the third time I’ve had other Chicago area matchmakers attend my events to either meet me or “scout out” the competition. It’s always a strange feeling knowing that your competition is watching every move you make, but it keeps you on your toes!

Speaking of competition, I had the chance to meet Ben Shimon- who runs S3 leagues– a singles sports league team in Chicago. He came out last night to introduce himself, meet some ladies and to hand out flyers for his upcoming fall/winter bowling, volleyball and whirlyball leagues. We had spoke earlier in the week about cross promoting and hit it off well over the phone. Though we both cater to singles in Chicago- we have different products, so working together seems smart. I’m glad he came out and am looking forward to working together with him on some large events in the future. Quick promo spot- Check out his website and join a league for the winter!

I must be starting to “come into my own” as everyday I’m receiving emails or phone calls from potential sponsors, partners and interested parties. It’s nice that after so long I’m starting to get to where I want to be. Hopefully by this time next year I’ll be able to focus 100% of my time on Mingle Around and produce amazing events every night of the week. My “day” job is great, but people always say the way to true happiness is to do what you love. I love Mingle and am excited to do what I love.

Back to the party! The party itself was great. There were a good mixture of singles and it’s always fun watching the natural interactions between people. Mixer events are truly one of the best ways to meet someone and events with an icebreaker (such as nuts & bolts matching) only help to facilitate the natural progression of mingling. When you have a superficial goal such as earning raffle tickets for prizes- you have a natural out of conversations that you don’t want to be in AND a natural reason to speak to attractive or interesting singles. Unlike online dating- you actually get to feel a real connection with potential mates and you save time when there isn’t one. Photos from singles event here!

As always there were a few “fails”.

 Fail #1. “The girl or guy who can’t hold her liquor”
Repeat after me: “Too much liquor makes you sicker”. When you’re the girl falling off of bar stools while asking to take someone home, you’ve probably had too much. If you’re the guy saying yes to the girl- you are either an asshole or a predator. Now, thankfully- this did not happen at the Mingle Around party last night, but I watched it happen at the bar after the event was over. I’m the one who caught her falling off of the bar stool. When I asked her if she wanted me to catch her a cab and to walk her out of the bar- the jerk of a guy she was talking with pushed me away and told me he’d be taking care of her. Of course he told me this with a wink. Really. A wink that said “Yes, I know this girl if drunk as a skunk, and I know you know… but yes, I’m still going to take her home and do all types of wrong things to her.”

Fail #2 “I forgot my shoes”
It’s happened before and will probably happen again, but I left my house in “house slippers” instead of my black heels. I hate heels and only wear them when necessary- so I had worn my glittery flats while dressing and to catch a cab. I had thought that I packed my black heels with my nuts & bolts party box, but had forgotten them by my front door. I’m not uspet, my house slippers are cool- gold sparkles and all, but it just goes to show that I really would forget my head if it wasn’t attached (though, it was nice to wake up this morning without aching feet!).
That’s it for fails, and I had to really stretch to find something. It truly was an amazing night.

I hope you can make it out to the next event we host and help make the night even more spectacular. Singles event can be found on our website http://www.MingleAround.com.

Have a great weekend everyone!

-Jill

Photos from last night

Sorry the photos aren’t great… my phone camera doesn’t do anyone justice! Here are a few photos from the singles party at Houndstooth Saloon in Chicago. Hope to see YOU at a party soon!

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Reader Question- Too much kiss?

Hello Mingle Around blog readers! I just had a facebook message sent to me with a great question. Below is her email and then in the comments, my answer. Feel free to chime in and tell her what you think!

Hey Jill,

Just wanted to throw a dating question out there,,, maybe you can answer or ask other singles…  I went on a blind date last night w someone I met on match.com. Had a really good evening, sat at a nice bar, had appetizers and a bottle of wine and non stop fun conversation for 4 hrs. And we scheduled another date , he wants to take me to a nice restaurant. …Then when he walked me out to my car, he held my hand through the parking lot ( wasn’t super fond of that ) and then when we reached my car, he really started the kissing thing, like tongue, and making out. I felt like it ruined the whole perfect night. Not sure if I’m too old fashion or if it has to do with our older age, but I wanted to give him a kiss on the cheek and say thanks. When he called tonite, I mentioned it, and he said I am over analyzing it. He said, ” I found you to be very attractive, and I wanted to kiss you. ” So, whats the deal … is there first date etiquette these days ????  

Thanx, 

Don’t Kiss and Tell

My answer:
  • Dear Don’t Kisss and Tell,
  • Yes, I think you are  over analyzing  the kiss and his intentions. If you only wanted a kiss on the cheek, you should have turned your cheek when he went to kiss you. If you went along with the kiss, he had no idea that you weren’t into it. So, please don’t hold it against him… he is a man who was attracted to you— I’d be surprised if he didn’t try to make out with you!

    I agree with you on the small kiss (cheek or peck on the lips) for a first date. I would be more turned on by a man who didn’t kiss me after a first date than a man who tried to swap spit for 10 minutes. BUT… I wouldn’t hold it against him if he tried.

    I think that as a woman, it’s your “job” to direct the kiss (if it happens or not)…. as a man it’s his “job” to try to get as big of a kiss out of you with out crossing the line.

    Does that make sense?

    And your question on first date etiquette these days… it’s out the window. So many people sleep together on date one or two nowadays that everyone is confused on what to do.

    I think you should have date two soon. Don’t bring up the kiss, enjoy the evening. When he walks you to your car again, it’s your chance to pull away from the kiss or get into it. If you just want a good night peck, then don’t allow anymore than that.