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Five sad Christmas songs. Do not play!

I love Christmas. I love Christmas songs. I despise these songs though…

Five sad Christmas songs Mingle Around will NOT be adding to our holiday singles party soundtrack.

1. Wham! Last Christmas… with lines about tearing a heart apart, who wouldn’t add this song to their “Do not play” list?

2. Elvis. Blue Christmas… “I’ll be so blue with out you. Christmas won’t be the same if you’re not here with me” These are lyrics that just don’t bring a smile to my face.

3. Please Come Home for Christmas by Charles Brown…. “My babys gone, I have no friends…” Just downloading this youtube video to embed to the blog already brought tear to my eye. Warning! Do not play this song!

4. What Do the Lonely Do for Christmas? By The Emotions…. “I know it’s joy to the world, but it’s sad for me” What do the lonely do? They don’t listen to songs like this!

5. The Christmas Shoes. All the little boy wants is to buy a pair of shoes for his dying mother on Christmas eve. Come on song writers…. let’s write happier songs! “Daddy says there’s not much time…” Hello Tear Jerker.

What songs am I missing? Merry Christmas everyone!

Photos from the Mingle Around Nuts & Bolts Party (ABC taping)

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Just a few photos from the Mingle Around Nuts & Bolts party on 11/4/11. Hope to see you at one soon!


Photos from last night

Sorry the photos aren’t great… my phone camera doesn’t do anyone justice! Here are a few photos from the singles party at Houndstooth Saloon in Chicago. Hope to see YOU at a party soon!














Reader Question- Too much kiss?

Hello Mingle Around blog readers! I just had a facebook message sent to me with a great question. Below is her email and then in the comments, my answer. Feel free to chime in and tell her what you think!

Hey Jill,

Just wanted to throw a dating question out there,,, maybe you can answer or ask other singles…  I went on a blind date last night w someone I met on Had a really good evening, sat at a nice bar, had appetizers and a bottle of wine and non stop fun conversation for 4 hrs. And we scheduled another date , he wants to take me to a nice restaurant. …Then when he walked me out to my car, he held my hand through the parking lot ( wasn’t super fond of that ) and then when we reached my car, he really started the kissing thing, like tongue, and making out. I felt like it ruined the whole perfect night. Not sure if I’m too old fashion or if it has to do with our older age, but I wanted to give him a kiss on the cheek and say thanks. When he called tonite, I mentioned it, and he said I am over analyzing it. He said, ” I found you to be very attractive, and I wanted to kiss you. ” So, whats the deal … is there first date etiquette these days ????  


Don’t Kiss and Tell

My answer:
  • Dear Don’t Kisss and Tell,
  • Yes, I think you are  over analyzing  the kiss and his intentions. If you only wanted a kiss on the cheek, you should have turned your cheek when he went to kiss you. If you went along with the kiss, he had no idea that you weren’t into it. So, please don’t hold it against him… he is a man who was attracted to you— I’d be surprised if he didn’t try to make out with you!

    I agree with you on the small kiss (cheek or peck on the lips) for a first date. I would be more turned on by a man who didn’t kiss me after a first date than a man who tried to swap spit for 10 minutes. BUT… I wouldn’t hold it against him if he tried.

    I think that as a woman, it’s your “job” to direct the kiss (if it happens or not)…. as a man it’s his “job” to try to get as big of a kiss out of you with out crossing the line.

    Does that make sense?

    And your question on first date etiquette these days… it’s out the window. So many people sleep together on date one or two nowadays that everyone is confused on what to do.

    I think you should have date two soon. Don’t bring up the kiss, enjoy the evening. When he walks you to your car again, it’s your chance to pull away from the kiss or get into it. If you just want a good night peck, then don’t allow anymore than that.

Someone for everyone


I’m on the metra train and am observing two young “gamers” flirt with each other across the seat.

His pickup line, “is that minecraft?” (pointing to some video game she’s playing on her laptop)

That’s all it took. For the past 40 minutes they have talked video games. She’s giving him the eye and twirling her hair, giving him the “yes!” signal. 

Will he take it or chicken out?…….

Point is… small talk about common interests gets you far. Even for two lonely gamers on a train!

Update…. they exchanged server names(?) so they can play against each other later tonight!  I think this is a win!

About last night’s singles party

Aboust last nights Nuts & Bolts Singles Party.

114 singles had registered for the Mingle Around Nuts & Bolts singles party being hosted at Houndstooth Saloon. It was a nice Friday night in Chicago and we were ready for fun.

As usual… it was amazingly fun. And as usual, there were some (minor) mishaps. Being a singles event host, matchmaker, and the owner of holds a lot of responsibility and stress, but stress in a good way. I’m a type B perfectionist…. which I think means that though I try and try to make things perfect, I’m okay when they go wrong… I’m not the kind of girl who lets a broken (just perfectly manicured) nail ruin my whole day.

Take for example last night. The event started at 6:30. At 6:35 I went to my purse and was digging for my hand lotion… felt something wet and was immediatly annoyed, the lotion top must have came off and was all over every thing in my purse. EXCECPT for the fact it wasn’t my lotions, it was my bright red nail polish. In my rush to get the lotion on my hand I hadn’t looked and had already rubbed the polish into both hands and then the smell hit me. I looked down. Both hands looked as if I needed to be rushed to the hospital as they were blood red. Seriously? Immediatly ran to the washroom to clean my hands, my purse, my cell, my wallet… they were all coated in OPI blood red polish. Any girls reading this KNOWS you can’t wash this junk off!

So, what else to do but face the crowd with bloody hands. I noticed a few people second glancing my hands and back off slowly… but what else to do but flaunt it like it’s the next cool thing? (Think Billy Madison when he pee’s his pants because it’s “cool”).  I totally expect the next event to have all the women flaunting nail polish hands… right? Right?! Okay… maybe not!

Another annoying and upsetting mishap… Last night was supposed to be my big media night. I had hosted a very cheap event ($3.00 tickets) in exchange for all my singles to be videotaped and interviewed about being single in Chicago and dating in general. It was supposed to be fun, cute, funny and was hopefully going to post some fun video blogs today. The video was going to be a nice “intro” to the nuts & bolts concept and hopefully drive more traffic to the upcoming events. Great idea huh?

I brought my little hand held camera, portable lighting, had a backdrop ready for interviews and thought I looked my best (except for the blood hands). My singles were showing up looking HOT and ready for action. I broke out the camera flipped it on and a little “Card will not read” warning popped up on the video screen. Okay, I can handle this. I brought 4 back up SD cards… just in case. ALL FOUR wouldn’t read.

Seriously? All four? Really?

I tested, charged and prepared the camera the night before, I had packed the back up cards, packed a back up battery and prepared interview questions. For some reason the Gods of Media didn’t want me videotaping that night. Ha. I guess the night had other plans for me. I’ve always got a back up though. I whipped out my little HTC smart phone, walked around taking some fun photos, shoot some low quality videos on the phone and I’ll try to salvage something out of this.

By 7pm we had a decent sized crowd and some really attractive men and women mingling. By 7:30 the majority of everyone had checked in and the room was rocking. The party had a good vibe to it and people were making matches, at least on the hardware.  I saw a few couples leave together to carry on intimate conversations in the main bar room and by the end of the night I saw the tell-tale signs of attraction and interest between a few more couples.

It’s 9:00, time for raffle drawings and prizes!

The day before I had braved a shop to the porn store. Yes, the good little Catholic girl walked into a porn store with her head held high and purchased some fun, slightly naughty gifts. (For all my readers, there isn’t a gag store like Spensers in the Orland Mall around here, someone told me that the porn shops usually have that kind of stuff though)

Don’t get all excited… I passed up the giant ummm… personal massagers… and purchased the types of things you’d expect to see at a bachelorette party with your mom around. Some dirty dice, a “Get Drunk” card game (so classy… I know), and to top it all off a giant bright red feather duster thing-a-ma-jig. I think it was called a whip tickler. Just fun stuff.

But, on my way home from the porn shop I had left my bag with the feather duster thing and the dirty dice in WALGREENS. WTF? How did I leave a porn shop bag at Walgreens? Of course, when I got back home to show my roommate my raffle prizes I realized what I had done… but how do I go back into Walgreens asking “Did someone leave a black bag of porn stuff in here?… Yeah, it’s mine.” So, I let it go.

The prizes were still fun. Some tools, a tool box thing (fitting for a “Nuts & Bolts” party), wine, gift cards, Bears stuff, candy etc. I think everyone enjoyed.

About 10pm the crowd thinned out with a lot of singles heading over to the popular singles bar, John Barley Corn. My roommate joined them and filled me in with all the gossip the next morning. From what she heard, the group had an amazing time. Which makes me happy. And keeps me wanting to do more.

My hands are now regular colored, my bank account is slightly smaller (damn bar tabs) and I’ve got about 80 new friends that I met last night. I think it was a success.



P.s. If you went to the party last night, shoot me an e-mail with your comments (or comment below!) I’d love to know what you thought.

Also, a Cougar night is coming up as well as another Nuts & Bolts party. Join us!

Save the Date: Nuts & Bolts Party

Nuts & Bolts Singles Party

Win raffle prizes, meet your match, enjoy complimentary
appetizers and drink specials!

Come out, mingle, mix and meet your match! This party is limited to  120 people, due to the size of the venue and I KNOW we are  going to PACK THIS PLACE WITH HOT SINGLES! We are going back to one of our  favorite spots in the city, Houndstooth Saloon! This is an all ages event (21+),  with 120 singles… there will be singles in their 20’s and singles in their  50’s. Mingle with who YOU are attracted to!

Buy your tickets here!

We are going to be famous!

Why are we going to be famous? Because I’m videotaping the party, the venue and YOU! The party is going to be edited and hosted on YouTube (Mingle Arounds not yet functional page) and the Mingle Around website. If you want to give a  quick interview to our host for the camera, great!If not- that’s fine too!

Just enjoy yourself and help make Mingle Around look great! The entire “movie” will be less then 3 minutes in length, I just want to be able to show new Nuts & Bolts party goes how much fun we have and how easy it is to find your match.

Okay, back to the party

If you haven’t been to a “Nuts & Bolts” party then you really need to take advantage of the $3 (yes, only $3) admission NOW. If you wait and want to pay at the door the price is $20, IF space is available.

This party $3 admission gets you drink specials for our group ONLY, complimentary appetizers for the first hour, chances to win cash, gift cards and prizes, a shot at fame on Youtube (okay, not really) and a fun night out with 120 singles in a really cool bar.

Drink specials for our group (must have a Mingle Around wrist band on)

$3 domestic beers (regularly $4-$5)

$5 vodka redbulls (normally $7)

$5 bombs (normally $7)


1. Choose your hardware.

Women will choose a nut out of a basket. Big ones, small ones, gold ones, silver ones. Pick one you like!

Men get to choose a bolt. There are of course fat ones, skinny ones, long ones and short ones.

2. Find a nut or a bolt that matches.

Yep, you get to walk up to that hottie and ask “umm… can I see if this fits?” If it fits go to Rule #4. Otherwise read Rule #3.

3. Mingle

Mingle with your non match, just because the hardware doesn’t fit doesn’t mean there isn’t going to be a connection! Then move on to a new piece of equipment and keep looking for that match!

4. Exchange

Exchange your matching hardware for a new piece and to enter the raffle drawing at 9pm. You’re playing for cash, gift cards and other fun prizes, but remember the real prize is meeting a potential match.

5. Continue!

About Houndstooth:

We’ve partied here a few times in the past and have had a blast. Houndstooth Saloon brings a touch of Southern hospitality to a
sports bar-heavy stretch of Clark Street in Wrigleyville. The service is great, the decor is fun and the music is right on. This bar is packed most nights but we’ve got the two back rooms just for ourselves!

Sign up on or today in order to save your spot.

Free Jazz Singles Night

Free Outdoor Jazz Concert

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

5:30 PM – 8:00 PM

Location: Museum of Contemporary Art 220 Chicago Ave, Chicago
It’s time for a totally free event! Get out of the house, meet some great new people, enjoy amazing music and the fresh fall air!

The museum of contemporary art has hosted a “Tuesdays on the Terrace”, a free jazz night, all summer long with a great turn out. Just our luck we can still catch a free show with the amazing Charles “Rick” Heath, a Chicago Jazz renowned musician, before winter hits and we are stuck inside!

Don’t miss one of the last outdoor events before bundling up all winter long. Spring is a long time away… lets get outdoors while we can!

This is an all ages, all types of singles gathering. Bring a friend or come make new ones, I promise it will be fun!.

We’ll meet up around 5:30, I’ll try to save us a table or two (if possible) but will also have a few blankets. If you can bring a lawn chair or two, that would be great but not necessary. There is a cash bar and small food stand here, please no outside food or drinks.


Fashion for flirting

Women dress up for women… not for men.  Women are worried about the purse, shoes and earring not because she thinks the man across the bar cares, but because the women sitting next to him might. It makes little sense on how much money and time we (as women) spend on clothing and shoes.

Men want to see clean and tight. Women want to see labels and style. A pair  of simple high heels a tight short skirt and a sexy top is all it takes to turn a mans head if you wear it right. Tousled hair, simple makeup and a “clean/fresh” look finishes the perfect look for a night out on the town. Don’t spend the time browsing the mall for just that perfect dress, he’s more concerned about getting it off of you anyways!

Do you agree?